Sex Masquerade

Naked with a Scarf- HNT

2011-12-14T22:43:00.000-08:00

It's cold outside. So I put on a scarf on. Feels tons better now :)

Relationship Frustration in Pictures

2011-11-29T04:51:00.001-08:00

This is Me- Business and normal on the outside, party on the down low.

This is her, A nice girl (and very "vanilla" as far as I know)*

Now we do a lot of this already, and it's good. I really do like her as a person and sexually *

However, I've done this and like it*

(gave and received)

And I think (I've never done) I might want to try these things one day*

However, I get the strong feeling she will completely object to everything but the good ol stuff(based on talks we've had)*

Which for now is fine. But I'm worried. If I fall for her, will this be an issue??

How important is sex to me really- and is this how I'm going to lead relationships from now on

So difficult. End.

(*I took none of the pictures besides the first one. I also claim no rights to them. If they're yours and you want them down, please let me know. I claim rights only to the frist. Cheers)

Not what you're looking for

2011-10-26T06:30:00.000-07:00

So recently I've started seeing this girl. She's cute, funny, and has a little attitude- so basically just how I like them.

Problem is, she's not what I expected. Better yet, not what I was looking for. Kind of opinionated in things that I'm more open about- such as sex positive attitudes. Bi men do not exist in her world. And all men are promiscuous. I don't really subscribe to those attitudes.

Yet, I'm more attracted to her than ever. This is going to be weird. I'm not going to stop seeing her, and I'm not trying to change her mind either.

However, this is a complete mindfuck for me since I thought the next girl I dated would be a kinky, poly, swinger. She's not even close- but I like it. hmmm.

Why Hoodies are Awesome

2011-10-20T06:38:00.001-07:00

Hoodies are my favorite piece of clothing. Don't you agree??

A secret

2011-10-13T07:11:00.000-07:00

Secret: Sometimes I worry that my sexuality is a problem, and I wish I was into very plain, "vanilla" sex so I wouldn't feel like I had a monster of a secret when I meet new women I like. And that my friends may not be okay with it. (It's just a creeping feeling though, and I won't let it stifle me)

Get Messy and Take Risks

2011-09-15T05:31:00.000-07:00

Take Chances. Make mistakes. Get messy. And do it naked. Life is too short. Goddam I loved the magic school bus. I swear everything I would ever need to know about how to live life came from that show, or Dr. Seuss.

Remember, always say what you mean, and mean what you say! HHNT!

Sex with Anonymous

2011-09-12T19:36:00.000-07:00

This weekend I did an absolute first. I'm notorious among my friends for going out, getting drunk, and messing with girls/women. I've literally made out with more girls than I can count. They say you have about 28 first kisses (Oh thank you Dentyne Pure). That's low.

I'm also no stranger to taking random women home. One night stands with people I kind of know? Check. Same with people I know of? Check. With people I've known all of a few hours? Check- Geez I sound like a man whore, but I digress.I took home a beautiful girl, one of the sexiest on my list thus far. Well she took me home, but I for the first time know absolutely zero about her. I can barely remember what she looks like. I don't know where she's from, interests, hell I don't even know her name.

Yet, it was some of the hottest goddam sex I've had in quite some time. Dirty talking like no other (and I don't dirty talk), ass slaping, back scratching, raw, rough, and dirty sex. I felt like as this was the only memory of me she would have I had to be nasty. I had to be freaky. I had to be in charge and make her want every inch me. I fucked her with all the energy I had, one pounding stroke after another. At the end of it we both sat exhausted only to pass out naked on her bed, So to the girl who I shared a passionate night with, thank you for the experience. You'll forever go down in my book of awesome sex.

Aneros Orgasm Wipes Mind- HNT

2011-08-24T21:34:00.000-07:00

So I had all these ideas for a post. I've bee writing things down all week that I wanted to research and talk about. I wanted opinions and to spark thought. That was until I decided to celebrate Anal August. And by celebrate, I mean play with the aneros. Quite frankly ,I am spent. It is honestly some of the best money I've spent in my life. The waves of pleasure just wash over you and you lose complete control over your body. Before I knew it I was bucking and convulsing uncontrollably. I don't buck or convulse-ever. Ladies, if you want to see some exorcist like orgasms from your man, this will do it. Your mind goes blank and your body is seething with pure carnal pleasure. I honestly wish women had a prostate to experience this. Just once. After a couple of those orgasms I can barely think, let alone move. Have fun this weekend.

I suggest you peep some of the videos and posts below. I've been busy this week trying to make your eyeballs happy :-)

Also, assuming you're thinking of anything, what's on your mind???

Ginger Valentine Striptease- Yum yum yum

2011-08-23T19:09:00.000-07:00

So I don't think she's a size zero or one of those small seize (I really have no clue what size women are), but she absolutely sexy. Yum. Also women who can dance= mouth watering.

Bionic by Greg, Featuring the Sexy Zahia Dehar

2011-08-23T17:55:00.000-07:00

Cheating or Open Relationships

2011-08-23T05:32:00.000-07:00

I recently read articles that just got me thinking, Why? One article was True Stories: I Cheat On Everyone by Katie Fridkis and Lust for Life By Bettina Arndt. In the first article, Katie basically extolls her not so virtuous past with her ex-boyfriends. She couldn't stay committed with one guy, and always had another guy on the side. Up until the endpoint in the article, she was a notorious cheater, but now has decided to wait it out and be single. In Lust for Life Bettina quotes Dan Savage -"If you are with a guy for 40 years and he cheats on you three or four times, he is GOOD at monogamy! Not BAD at monogamy. We think of monogamy the way we think of virginity - it exists until you f--- someone and then it's gone forever. We need to think of monogamy the way we think of sobriety - you can fall the f--- off the wagon and still get back up"

It seems the arguments in both of these articles is that-Hey I'm not good at monogamy, sorry for fucking up. Frankly, that's shit. If you're going to tell someone you're going to be committed, and only intimate with them- then you need to keep your word. If you feel like you can't, then you need to be honest with yourself- and your partner. It's ridiculously selfish to think you can do what you want and hurt other people in the mix because you just can't control yourself. Unless you actually have some mental problem, you can control yourself. The human mind is very developed and powerful. The thought that you can put your mind to anything you want is not a fallacy.

Now, not saying that you should give up something you're not good at, but if you really want to do these things, why not be in an open relationship? If you know you can't help but sleep with other people on the side, why not be a swinger? If you know you develop feelings for people outside your relationship, why not be poly? I firmly believe in monogamy. It does work for some people, and some couples. However , I don't think it's for everyone. It really just doesn't work, and that's okay too.

So why is it that people cheat? Is this an option that they never considered, or is that something they just don't believe in, as in they just need to get their act together. At what point is it that you have to accept that you may need to try something else because what you've been doing/seen/learned is wrong for you and not everything that you learned is wrong is right for you. In the immortal words from Jay form the 40 Year Old Virgin "Of course it don't feel right! What has felt right for you doesn't work! You need to try some wrong, dawg"

I really think we need to start educating people on open relationships. One great book is Opening Up by Tristan Taormino. She keeps a very nice message throughout her book- Be honest in your relationship and do what works for you. Simply, that's fantastic advice for life and any relationship you engage in- romantic or not. For the first time in history, I think we're starting to see that monogamy does not work for a lot of people. In the past you had to be in a relationship. Between religious upbringing, lack of opportunities for women, crushing male stereotypes, lack of the ability to study large groups of people effectively, and not it being really difficult to connect with a lot of people, we jus didn't know. Nor did we have the right tools to effectively communicate. With the rise of the internet and social networks, that has completely changed, and we need to reevaluate the situation in light of this new information.

Thoughts on serial v. one time cheaters? Are they lying to themselves, or are they just being a**holes? Do we need to really start acknowledging open relationships because what's been taught really doesn't work and we have the numbers to prove it?

Finally Back

2011-08-20T10:34:00.000-07:00

my computer has been broken for a few days, so I missed a lot of things, and that included half naked thursday. Damn. Well enjoy this video by nineteen percent. She's awesome.

The Artistry of Sex

2011-08-10T20:56:00.000-07:00

Lately I've been reading "Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?" by Seth Godin. It's a phenomenal book. It says that anyone can create art. I wholeheartedly believe in that. He goes on to say that the medium is irrelevant. All that matters is that you're trying to create something, and all artists are generous. It's important here that when I say generous, I'm referring to explicitly giving without hope for a return. I think that's a powerful concept to grasp in life, but even more so in sex.

So this got me thinking about sex. When we have sex, can it be art? I would say most people would say of course. Some of it is even 'art' in the traditional sense. However, I came to the conclusion that the art behind sex is intent. The intent guides the generosity which makes it art, and the players artists. This isn't ground breaking, but it's key.

Sex is almost inherently linked to self centered thought because it's tied to carnal, animalistic desires. I truly believe that sex, even at its finest hour really incorporates zero complex thoughts. In my mind there are two distinct thoughts. To give yourself to someone fully, and to take them fully. When you're sex is art, you're not thinking about bills, the kids, or work. The thought is about the person in front of you, behind you, on top of you. Even in BDSM, which is usually pretty sexual, the art is the intent to inflict pleasure, then pain (sometimes). Even though the giver is receiving something in return, the gift is what they give to their S/O when done right- a complete mind fuck.

This is something I think translates directly into porn. When you look at some performers and sites, it's perfectly clear it's not art. The intent is to receive a paycheck. Now I know they all want pay (you can't pay bills on hope and dreams), but there it's clear who's there to get paid, and those that came to participate and get paid. I know my favorite performers are those that do, or at least seem to lose themselves in a scene. Where you can tell they're definitely not faking the lust, both for their partner, and the viewer. They're trying to make this an experience for all parties involved. See The Art of the Blowjob, and Pornographic Love for some great examples.

At the end of the day, their generosity pays out to the viewer, and their partners more times than we could measure. A good perfumer gives us the gift of fantasy, lust, and passion. There's no real price tag you can put on that. We can never really repay them for what they do for us. That's the real generosity. Giving a gift that behind value because it becomes a part of you.

Art is so important because you will have bad sex otherwise. I came across some stuff that had people who have not brought themselves to bed with their partner. The person who does not bring themselves to bed robs their partner, and themselves of a worthwhile experience. When people say they had a bad sex life, it's clear someone was holding out. You were not looking to give them the experience of you, which will always be mechanical. And quite frankly, people who have mechanical sex are easy to replace, and not usually worth the sex in the first place. When you bring art, you give them an experience that can't be taken away- an experience of yourself.

This is something that translates into my own life. The girls I slept with only to get my number up- I barely remember the sex. Or I do, and the experience is nothing to me. But then there are those experiences when I opened up, and let my carnal passions get the best of me. Those are the times I can remember. I can still touch, taste, and feel every moment. I was trying to give them the gift of me. I was trying to give them an experience of myself that they would affect them. Something unforgettable, at least I hope I did.

Remember, make art in everything you do, it's much more rewarding :)

Remember to check Osbasso for everyone else this week! I'm sure they want to see your lovely faces as much as I do! :)

Sex for Money

2011-08-08T19:15:00.000-07:00

Would you have sex for money? A one time act or ongoing? Porn or prostitution? I've jokingly and seriously thought about this. What got me thinking about all of this is all the porn sites that are springing up of couples having sex. You can tell like in The Art of the Blowjob or Pornographic Love that the two peole involved have some sort of connection. It isn't just sex for the camera. It's sex that happens to be caught by the camera.

However, sex and payment is something that's still taboo, and usually joked about. Now I feel like most college age men have asked, or have been asked this: Would you blow another dude for a million dollars? Would you fuck, let him fuck you, and blow him for a million dollars? Ten million? A billion? Ten billion?

I don't know how many times I've played this game with people, but the answers are always the same. An emphatic yes. The only difference is the price. What's even more hilarious is how we rationalize it. Mind you when I talk I'm speaking from the POV of the stereotypical hetero male. Comments range from- 1 billion..Hell yea! to well one blowjob and I'm set for life, so I guess it's not so bad. These comments came from some of the most conservative, homophobic people that I've ever met.

It got me thinking: Can an we all be bought and sold for sex(willingly of course)? Would you be willing to turn down $10,000,000,000 to do something you are not into? And to take it one step further- Why are we so down on those who do choose to receive payment for sexual acts?

For most, I would say they don't want to cheapen the act,the person, or themselves by having sex for money. I emphatically disagree with this notion. You can be in a relationship with someone and have the most mechanical sex ever, but you can have the most passionate sex with someone you just met (think about a hookup/other actor/client).

I say all of this because I've been thinking about sex as art (which I will post about later). It would seem from the way we usually approach it is that once there's payment, there's no art, and therefor it's not as good. It's really time to take a step back and reevaluate the passion and artistry in all sexual acts, and realize dollar amounts attributed to them are just numbers. If that 10,000,000,000 was given to you after you had sex with someone you love having sex with, something tells me people would have a hard time keeping a smile off their faces. Hopefully sites like The Art of the Blowjob And Pornographic Love show people their is a sensual artistic side to porn that is vastly different from the rape/violence filled videos some would have you believe.

So, any other thoughts? How do you view sex and money? Should they always be separate or do you have an ideal thought for their synergy? And my favorite question- Would you have sex for money?

Number of Sexual Encounters-HNT

2011-08-04T06:10:00.000-07:00

Do you ever keep track of your number? Not your age or your weight, but your number?

Does it even mean something to you at the end of the day?

I've recently began sleeping with a few new women, and it occurred to me that my number is slowly climbing to where people might attribute some negativity to it. I *think* I'm higher than most people my age who have had serious, long term relationships.

Now, on the one hand I feel marvelous, mostly because I can say I've had my fun. I've managed to do better than most men, and looked good doing it (or at least I think so). On the other hand, is that only it comes down to? Numbers? Am I going to have to keep trying to outpace myself and get it higher and higher so at least those who are considered 'promiscuous' feel that I'm on their level. While I don't want to be rejected, I don't feel bad for any of the people I've kissed, had sex with, or just liked.

I tend to sit around and think about all of the girls in my life that I've lusted after and/or had (please tell me I'm not creep.. Pleeeaase). They're all really found memories though-like she had the sexiest legs, her tits were amazing, I could hit that ass all night ( and I did-GREAT times). Then there are the women who have stolen my attention, and I didn't even have sex with them, Along the lines of her kiss took my breath away, she had the it factor. I was putty in her hands. Each one of them has made me the lustful lover than stand before you today.

I love all the encounters that I've had and I'm wondering if I should slow down or ramp it up. While I would love to have a serious relationship with someone, the girls I'm dating don't seem so interested, so I've stopped concerning myself with the thought. I'm still having fun, so whatever happens, happens. I've even got an invite from another couple I happened to meet to swing with them. Who would've thought right? Not sure I'll take it since I'd be alone, and I won't have anyone to fall back on after the 'event' which kind of sucks. Then there's the added bonus of my number skyrocketing which might be fun for me, but might hurt future relationships when I have to explain my 'swinger' days. Hell I don't even know if I am one, but the appeal of fun group sexi s a strong one. Could I do it if I had a S/O? I really don't know. If I do it this way it would be like cheating the system :/

So before I keep rambling, how do you feel about your encounter number, assuming you care at all? How do you feel about the number your partner, partners, future partner(s), may have? And as a side note-swinging: thoughts??

OOPS

2011-08-03T05:44:00.001-07:00

Sorry, Sorry, Sorry. So busy with lust and life that I have neglected this blog. They shall not be the case for long though. I have many many things to explore and write about, and I've decided to do it using mostly pictures. I'm great with word, but I'm better explaining pictures. Stay tuned!

Penis Size, Good Sex, and HNT

2011-07-07T06:14:00.000-07:00

I really didn't want to write about this, mostly because as men, we are obsessed with our dick size. It's an unfortunate fact of life. After watching last night's Southpark episode, I knew something was telling me to talk about my junk.

So here it goes.

My penis is awesome and I love it. But by awesome, I mean big. Now, I'm not breaking world records or anything, but I'm not slightly above average. I beat the average. A large majority of the women I've slept with have had issues with it (they could be really tight of course, but stay with me here)

Here's a little secret you may not here all the time.

Having a big dick- not as much fun as people make it out to be. Now don't get me wrong, I wouldn't change it for the world. However, it makes sex difficult for two reasons. The mental games that get played suck, and the physicality of it all usually falls flat.

Mentally, when some women see it, that's *all* they see. Nevermind the rest of my body, nevermind what I have to say, it just becomes penis penis penis. In addition, you get a reputation. Oh him, oh yea he has a big ol' meat. Women will talk to you just for it. Sometimes thats cool, sometimes it's not. It happens though. Regardless, you can usually get over that (or at least I can) easy enough.

Now the real shitty part is actually having sex. Porn always shows you these women who can take the largest cocks ever, in any hole, or all their holes at once. Let me tell you, these women are CHAMPIONS. Do you know what really happens when you have sex with most women when your penis is big? Here's a hint- not what you see in most porns. What you get is a screams of pain, running away from it, or my all time favorite- being told you have to stop and this isn't going to work, maybe you can try again later. It's not all popshots and rainbows.

This makes the sex dance a little more sophisticated. I think I speak for most men when I say when we initially get to have sex with a woman, our main goal is to please her so much that she can't resist us anymore. The problem is if I'm hurting you, I have to be quite a bit more adventurous, and a tad more open to things like toys, foreplay, fantasies, etc. Going the extra mile to get you hot becomes doubly important because it means whether or not I can get it into you or not. I have an arsenal of toys, lube, condoms, and other fun things waiting in the wings in just such an emergency.

Any tips for when I venture out into the world, trying to please each lady I meet? ;)

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e[lust] #27

2011-06-28T15:47:00.000-07:00

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Half Naked Thursday

2011-06-23T17:19:00.000-07:00

I don't have much right now. Watching a show about people who can't have sex for one reason or another. For us healthy people out there, appreciate your bodies, and appreciate the gift of sex. You never know when it might be taken away.

My Fear is Begetting my Indecisiveness

2011-06-22T05:53:00.000-07:00

As of late I feel like my mind is everywhere and no where at all. Everyday I wake up and I feel like I can't make a decision. I can't decide whether I want to do yoga or box. I can't decide if I want to be a party animal or go read a book. I can't decide how I want to conduct future relationships- Do I want to meet a super sexy kinky girl that I know is kinky, or just go the normal route and continue to date the girls I've started to develop crushes on?

The things that blares in my head is that fear is a weak emotion that can destroy you if you let it. I don't think I'm afraid to try these things. In fact, I know I 'm not. I'm not afraid to make mistakes either. I just feel that I have to really set my sites and go full speed and be "me". It's hard to say what "me" is anymore. There are some things I can't help but know are me.

Others are not so simple.

Sex has made this way more difficult. I've been deciding how much sex needs to play a factor in my life- especially as kink rears its head. If I like strapons, does that mean I can't be with someone who isn't? Is it something I need? Lately, I just don't know. What about openness to porn and masturbation? Or anything else to do with sex really? I'm just not sure that my sex-centric focus is healthy, or even worth it at this point in my life when I'm so young and could be doing millions of other things. Not only that, but will I miss out on great opportunities and people because they don't fall inline with what I've come to believe, and like about sex?

I guess I'm afraid of picking wrong. I don't mind picking something right, but failing until I fully get it. And I don't mind trying new things- I really do believe in challenging myself. I guess my fear is, by picking one thing, I seem to ultimately shut myself off from other things. This could be because of finances or personal reasons. There's only so much I can do given time and money, and I don't want to invest two very valuable resources and it turn out to be a dud.

I would say some of this comes from personal relationships I've had- romantic, platonic, and family. You believe in the other person so much, and you invest all this time and mental effort, not to mention cash and it just flops. The worst part is, it flops because of something they did, and you're just left holding all the pieces. I don't like putting myself out there only for it to completely blow up in my face. Every time it happens I tell myself I'll make sure it doesn't( but who can really predict that?!) I really don't like tis feeling.

I really need to shake this fear. It's weakening me.

Porn Made Me Appreciate the Nude Female Form More

2011-06-20T18:40:00.000-07:00

So basically I watch porn. A good deal of it too. However, this is not a post about porn (well not really anyway).

There have been numerous studies, discussions, panels, and research that say porn is bad. According to them, porn makes men want unrealistic sex, and it makes people (usually men in the studies) have "unrealistic expectations of women's bodies" Apparently, we as men, look at women in porn, and only find women just like them to be attractive, with or without their clothes on.

As a porn watcher and someone who participates in discussions, I can say that porn helps me appreciate MORE womens' bodies. I feel that I can actually look at most women, and see how I might find them attractive (purely sexual). I can thank porn for this. I grew up thinking that only big breasted, larges assed, small waist women were attractive. They were the key physical qualities I looked for in a woman.

Now? Hell no. I know from years of tugging it, there can be a ton of little things that you can find super sexy about a woman (things hidden by clothes and things not hidden by clothes). A thin girl may not look like much to sum, but I see sexy long limbs that can wrap around me during a hug or sex. I love it. Maybe she has a little extra weight? How nice would it to come home to her and put your hands around her soft body, or have her bent over ass jiggling everywhere?

Men typically watch porn of women's bodies they find attractive. I like big boobs. Who doesn't? But honestly I could care less whether you have an A cup to a big ol’ pair of DDs. I am an ass man though. I definitely like the large booties, but I also appreciate the nice small round ones.

So guess what? I tend to watch a lot of butt centric porn. Not only that, but I tend to watch girls who asses I like. With that in mind, I don't go around only talking to women who where booty dresses to accentuate their asses. I don't expect every girl I see on the street to have a large round butt. Quite honestly, I don't really expect much from their bodies at all. There are so many different body types, you'd be amazed to find out what you might find attractive. Just because I have a slight (fetish?) for one type, doesn't mean I dismiss the others.

Porn has really opened my eyes in terms of the sexual energy of all different types of women. It’s also exposed me to their bodies in a way I could only imagine. I know a lot of it is staged and acting, but there is a RAWNESS to it. You can’t fake what you look like naked with a cock in your mouth. At that point, it is what it is.

When it comes down to it, I’ve see so many bodies in so many sexually awesome ways, how could I not appreciate most of the body types out there?

Do you women feel like porn makes you have to look a certain way? Do the guys agree with me or are you opposite?

A Picture of my Ass and Legs for HNT

2011-06-16T05:05:00.000-07:00

I love sleep. I love sleeping naked. I love being naked in general. And I love my butt. That's all

Don't forget to visit Osbasso too :)

Belt Bondage Doggystyle

2011-06-14T19:49:00.000-07:00

Goddam that's sexy

Can Men Be Physically Sexy Too?

2011-06-09T06:17:00.000-07:00

Why can't men be visually sexy? It seems that by very definition of being a man, my body can never actually be physically attractive, never really desired by the opposite sex.

I long to be women's desire. I crave it. I don't know what it is, but in the back of my head, I always have that thought "I hope she likes what she saw". It's not so much that I sit around flexing, naked, trying to draw attention to myself. It's just that I try to to look good for everyone. I take care of myself. I make sure my hair is not a mess, I make sure my clothes are decent, that I smell good, and that if I see someone in passing, I throw a little smile at them. I do appreciate doing these things for myself as well. I love looking good. I love feeling good. The extra layer to it though, is I secretly want all women to love me- physically. I want them to say hmm, he's kind of cute, or hey, I'd like to hang with him sometime.

A reason why I strive so hard to look good is that I feel that men's bodies are always considered ugly, weird, or funny. It never seems to come out of a woman's mouth that men's bodies are sexy.

It's frustrating. I never feel like I can be sexy. I can be funny, charming, interesting, or a really nice guy. In the end, I'm never going to be sexy- simply because I have a penis. Compounding that issue is that I feel like I'm too small. I go to th gym often, maintian a good body shape, and I've gotten much bigger and worlds stronger over the years. Unfortuantley big is not big enough. Even if I'm the biggest guy in the gym or the strongest, it's just not enough.

I've read that men feel the need to be bigger, and women the need to be smaller. As much as I hate to admit, I do feel like it. The reason I want to be bigger is that I want to be sexually desirable. That just maybe, if I was huge with bulging muscles everywhere, women would crave my body the way I crave theirs. I have people that want me because I'm black, because I'm younger/older, to buy them things. They are what they are. However, I want to know people just want to touch me. To want to take me home. Hell, just to want to see me naked.

I find it unfortuante that the male body in recent history is considered something vulgar, ugly, or comical. Anyone's bodies can display any of those things, or it can be beautiful. As a man you have to be okay that you will never be beautiful, sexy, or yummy. Your best bet is to get a S/O that doesn't freak out looking at your penis when you're not having sex. While I think women are freaking gorgeous, I want what they have. I can't help but get jealous that a girl will throw on some high heels and a little black dress, and be the sexiest thing walking down the street. While I can be have gone to the gym all week, yoga class, jumped rope for hours, eat only lean meats, fruits and veggies, and wear my nicest clothes and not even get anyone to bat an eyelash at me. I want to be the sexiest thing walking down the street.

I'm not saying that I want to be liked just for the way I look. I am still me. Whether I'm dressed in the finest clohtes, nude, shaggy or shaven, I still want you to appreciate me being me. I just want you to desire my body too, and find it not only sexy, but irresistible.

(Don't forget to visit the Osbasso too!)

Lusting After Sexually Confident Women and HNT

2011-06-02T06:10:00.000-07:00

Sleepy Time

As of late, I find myself trying to find a beautiful woman that wants to and likes to fuck. What guy isn't right? I have the tendency to meet women who want to have sex, but only because I want to have sex, or because they feel like they should be getting it on because we've been on X amount of dates. It never feels like they WANT sex, almost like they have no sexuality of their own. I guess that's what I really mean when I say 'want sex'. That they have the desires and fantasies, and want to act on them. I always feel like I'm either the more sexual one, or I'm the one trying to convince them to try new things. It's a little weird. I don't mind sharing what I want, but I don't want to feel like I'm pressuring her, which it usually winds up feeling like.

So I've been trying to find women who are more overt about their sexuality, and more aware of what they want and are not afraid to get it. Unfortunately this is much harder to find. There are a couple of reasons for this it seems. One of the biggest ones is that quite a few exist, but are very discreet about it. I respect and understand the discreetness, but can I just get a hint or something? Just a little indication that you're the more sexual and are open to things. It's become a turn off that I'm with a girl and they've never masturbated before, that they have no fantasies, or that they're okay doing whatever I want since they like me. I don't want you to do it because you like me. I want you to do it because you like it, that's it's fun for you too, and FINALLY that you like getting me off. I want you to be as interested in your pleasure as you are in mine. Then there's the issue that the few women who choose to be overt about it get BOMBARDED by men from all over the place. It becomes impossible to actually get to know them to see if you match up because you're really just one of hundreds a day.

I thought about swinging, since it seems like fun, and I would say the women love and know pleasure as much as the men do (or at least say they do), but as a single male it's almost impossible to penetrate (no pun intended) the system. Then there's the problem of not having any physical attraction to the interested women. Everyone seems to think as a guy you have to take what you get, but I certainly do not subscribe to that philosophy. That causes two problems. I now look like a flake, or an asshole, because I rejected advances from one woman and I get blacklisted. I get labeled as someone who is all talk and no game, but the reality is I don't want to play with them, and I don't want to hurt their feelings in a public setting where they should feel attractive. Others will love them, they're just not for me. It also makes it hard for me to meet other people because I stay single instead of having a female partner. It's like the singleness begets singleness. The sex world frowns negatively at single men, no matter how well you conduct yourself. I could go out into the 'vanilla' (word choice?) world and hope to strike gold, or 'turn' somebody, but that's difficult, and I don't want to force my will onto someone else.

Then there's the whole issue of potential open relationships, but then I feel like my chances drop from 1 in a million to 1 in a billion.

So where are these sexual women hiding? Is there a secret society that no one told me about where there are women who are comfortable and aware of their sexuality, while at the same time not afraid to express it? Or is this really just a game of luck of the draw?

(and check O's blog for all the other HNT players!)

Aneros Equals Waves of Pleasure

2011-06-01T06:48:00.000-07:00

I should be off to work right now, but I had to write this quick post. So basically, the Aneros is probably the single greatest invention in the world.

Last nigh, I had to use it, since it was the end of Masturbation Month. I decided to go out with a BANG, because well, May only comes around once a year. Also, Since I mastered it once before quite some time ago, I figured I could you some muscle memory and speed things up a little bit.

A dear friend my body won't forget

Well I did, and it was awesome. I know I've written about it before, but as my 50th post, and end of the month, it only seemed fitting. The waves of pleasure that come over you are just so intense. I've cum so many different ways in my life, but these are earth shattering intense. I'm talking like to the point where my toes are curled, I'm grabbing the blankets and my body is convulsing. You just lose it. It's like this wave of euphoric pleasure washes over your entire body, and once it gets going you are overwhelmed. Not to mention, it lasts anywhere from 30 secs to a couple of minutes.

(I heard can orgasm for four hours. I don't think I could handle it after feeling it for just a minute!)

I always wondered what orgasms gelt like for women, and I assume this is as close as we're going to get. I've always been jealous of the orgasms they get to have after watching them turn into the exorcist. I think I don't have to be so jealous anymore though :)

HNT and Understanding My Place in Kink/Sex Community

2011-05-26T05:36:00.000-07:00

Some Rope :)

So I was going to write about how I don't feel like I belong in the world of kink/sex communities in general. As of late I've been feeling like it's just too much for me and I really don't feel like I 'fit' there. I mean I love sex and all, but I it felt like everyone was on a completely different page than me. Now I know that they are, but that's completely okay. Nothing really has happened to make me feel like this (like I played with someone or something), but I kind of have just been looking on twitter and other social networks. It just kind of smacked me in the face that they are so many different kinds of people that identitfy in the sex/kinky world. I think fetlife (which is awesome BTW) was just getting to me a little bit, but I need to remember that kink is NOT just crazy whips and gothica. I felt that I didn't beling in the kink community because I didn't want to wear latex, whip or be whipped, hit people, use wax, or participate in other well known kinks. I honestly don't understand those kinks, and they really don't appeal to me. However I do respect people who like them. It's just not for me.

For me "kink" is open sexuality-allowing one to express their sexual desire in any way they see fit. For me that means playing with toys in both giving and receiving, having soft sensual sex as well as hard rough sex, teasing, and maybe open relationships (they intrigue me). I also enjoy nudity (but as a bit of a nudist I need to say that nude does not equal sex). And shibari. I think I can really get into shibari. That's all for now and that's fine for me. One day I may open up to more, or I might decide to cut back. Either way, as long as I decide that I'm expressing my desires then I should be fine.

However there is one caveat, and hopefully other kinky people could share, but I need the "sex" part of the encounter to actually happen. As I've come to know it, there are a lot of kinksters who like certain acts without the sex part. I can't do that. They've said it's about the high and the body rush, but at the end of the day I'm still going to want to fuck in the midst of doing all those things. I'm quite curious about the headspace you put yourself in where you live a kink, or play, without actually having sex. Why do you do it/ what do you get out of it? I'm really curious to know. Is it more like a foreplay thing? Or is it more that you just want to do your thing, but keep the bedroom hooplah separate? Hmmm

I Hate the Dating Game.

2011-05-14T09:05:00.000-07:00

Trying to navigate this whole relationship business is much trickier than I ever thought it would be. I can't help but be reminded of the movie Hitch. You basically have to play a game to get a woman you like. You can't just hang out with a girl for a while and just say hey, you know what, "I like you". I swear behind "I love you", those have to be the most dangerous words in the English dictionary. Let's get this straight. I've played the game. I've played it well. VERY well. I won't lie. I've used women for sex. It was easy. If a cute enough girl liked you and she was up for it, you could just get with her and lead her on a little. I've also been used before. The feeling sucks. The worst thing though is that I watched a friend be used. I've never been so amazed at how deep the pain could go. After all of that, I decided I would STOP being that guy. I wouldn't do to people what I wouldn't want done to me. It sounds simple enough, but it really isn't. I figured I'd be more honest, with myself and the other person, so all was fair. It didn't mean on the first date I'd say I like you, but maybe after 3/4 dates I'd want to say I like your company. I've been int the dating world for a little while now, and it's this awkward song and dance. You basically have to fake non -nterest in order to progress the relationship. How does that make sense? 0_o. I'm not saying I want to walk up to a girl and say, "Hey there miss, you have fantastic boobs and I think I love you, no big deal". I just want to be able to say a simple "Hey, I enjoy your company, and I'd like to see you again". Unfortunately you can't say that. I've tried it. I've seen it. All that happens is a big pile of failure (think elephant turds). I understand no one wants a pushover, and everyone wants a challenge. That being said, just because I enjoy your company does not mean I want to date you, yet. It does not mean that I will do anything for you. It does not mean that I spend all my time thinking about you. It just means that I like when we hang out and I'd like to continue and see where this goes. You haven't won the game, but you're putting up a better offense the the Lakers against the Mavericks this Playoff Season.

SIdenote: I know that this doesn't apply to all women. With that being said, all of you nice sane women please let me know where your clubhouse is. I'll bring cake.

This is what it feels like for a lot of guys. This is why I hate the dating game

Rope

2011-05-03T05:11:00.001-07:00

I just bought some rope! Lately I've been thinking about bondage, not so much to restraint, but inticacies of it, so I've bought rope. Let's see how this turns out....

Njoy Eleven 1. Me 1.

2011-04-16T02:00:00.000-07:00

Conquered!!!!

Soooooo I finally did it! I beat the joy eleven. Or should I say that it beat me? I was still 'feeling' it a couple of days later, but it's all rainbows and sunshine.

It was weird, having it me was a releasing experience. While I was trying to get it in, all I could think of was all of the worries, and crazy things that happened to me. It was almost like they were holding me back/making me tight. To relax and let my body accept it, I had to let go of it all. Once I let go and really relaxed, and just accepting me, it kind of just slid it (not really but close enough. ) Once it was in it was AMAZING. Mostly mental though. It pretty much felt like a really large butt plug (awesome), but the mental rush of what I was doing was awesome. It had to be one of the most filling things I've ever felt. There's something so nice about the metal of joy toys. It's so unforgiving. You really need to bring something of yourself to it. It doesn't conform to you, you conform to it. I love the mental play that it represents. Not only that, it really makes you focus on who you are and what you really care about. It's not something that you can just do. It takes al ot of time, practice, and patience. The time requirement makes it worth it. Kind of like getting presents on your birthday. You know you're getting them, but having them on your day and getting it done makes it special. Plus as a sexual act, it's real. You can't fake it. I love the realness. Love love love it.

Aside from that I may be delving into the world of swinging. I have a sexy MILF looking for some action. Her husband knows and may or may not watch/participate. I don't know if I'm going to do it though. I can't lie I do worry about STIs, and having that label as so young an age. However, it is me, and I get really turned on by the idea so there's still a good chance I'll do it.

Other than that, I may be hanging out with some kinksters soon?

Basically, my life is about to get wild sexually, and I intend to make sure it's all here.

Interracial

2011-03-31T06:57:00.000-07:00

So basically I have been caught in a dilemma. As a black male who loves women of all colors, shapes and sizes, I usally go for the porn that has black guys in it. It helps a little to put yourself into the film you know?

However I do have a pet peeve about it, and the way black males are portrayed all the time

I really don't want to get into the issue of the whole interracial titling. I feel like it has been done to death, and frankly, it doesn't bother me that much. While I do agree that it's bullshit that interracial is a black male with another person of any other ethnicity but not two other ethnicities together, it really is bleh. I mean yea it's bs but shit, while I'm trying to spank one out interrracial is just an easier word to use.

My Problem is the constant highly aggressive, violent, sexualized view of black guys. It's weird. While the videos where it's the big black guy banging the hot little white mom are fun to watch sometimes, it's all there is. Or all that really seems to be.

As a black male, it kind of pisses me off that the black males in porn are either pimps, prostitutes, or just thugs form the hood banging your little white (insert family member). Why can't they just be two people just having some good sex sometime. Usually, it's just soo misreprestend, and so ridiculous. The sad thing is, it only perpetuates how people are taking in sexuality. It's like the black male is one of the most fun, yet the most taboo sex toys. You shouldn't indulge, but when you do, it's only going to be some animalistic fucking that you can't get at home.

What?

How does that even make sense in the first place. Not every black guy is walking around fucking anything with a whole as hard as possible. We are not animals contrary to popular belief.

Speaking from experience, this is also something that spreads out into the 'real' world. My friends and I have been with women who saw us as trophies, or that secret fuck toy that they don't really tell people about. I'm not saying you should kiss and telll, but the same girls who whisper some pretty obscene things in your ear, won't hold your hand in public. It's like if you're black, you're good for a good dicking, but not much else.

This can exist

This can exist too

Well, that's just bullshit. We are great. We have the same problems people just like everyone else. But we also have professional smart passionate caring men. Why can we not see any of these men? I can't believe that it wouldn't sell. Good sex is good sex.

I'm not saying let's scrap the fantasies and movies all together. All I'm asking is to see the other side of the coin sometimes. Let's hear both stories for a change.

Dark Odyssey Recovery Complete.

2011-03-19T12:14:00.000-07:00

So, I know I haven't been here for a while, but I had a fantastic excuse. Dark Odyssey short circuited my brain for sex.

I went into this event with what I thought was a clear understanding of sex, and specifically my sexuality. Not to say that I did not want to explore, but I didn't know it was going to be such an experience. I though I was going to go there and be completely unphased by the entire experience. I'm not new to sex, I've seen kinky things (online), and I understood that sexuality could mean a ton of different things.

That was what I thought.

There was a LOT of this.

It was completely the opposite, but in the most fantastic way. It had to be one of the most eye opening experiences of my life. You know how people say you can't unsee what you see? Yea, that's how I felt. Mind you, that was not meant to be negative, it just was a statement. It was an experience that wouldn't allow me to go backwards, only forwards.

The gravity of the event feels like being on Jupiter. Everything was heavy, and so difficult to process. I became mentally fatigued just trying to process all of the information. There was just so much going on, and trying to make sense of it all, in context, as a newbie, that I actually had to take breaks when in the main play space.

This is hot , regardless of context.

I did find something amazing though. I loved the sense of freedom and exploration. It was such an open, inviting experience. No one was trying to pressure you into something you didn't want to do, and everyone accepeted (or at least tolerated) how you chose to express yourself. That was one of the most fantastic things I've ever had the privelege to witness. 1000 or so "social deviants" created a tolerant, inviting society, that allowed you to do what you wanted without fear for two days. Now only if we could parse that out to the rest of the world, we would have something spectacular.

Honestly, after witnessing the event, my sex drive was completely shattered. Never in my life was I so blown away by something. I didn't know what I considered sexy anymore, and why I considered it sexy or not sexy in the first place.

THIS IS WHY IM SO FRUSTRATED. ARRRGGGHHHH

You see, I'm so completely confused about everything. You know when you do something that opens your eyes and you're grateful for it, but you despise it so much because it opened your eyes so wide you don't know where to start looking again? Yea, that's where I am, or at least I completely was a few weeks ago.

I'm still trying to figure out what kink even means to me, and if I see myself as a kinkster. I see some of the stuff at it looks like fun, but other times I realize I couldn't care less about it. I've worked through some of my issues, and have decided I still find most of the things I love before to be awesome. The thing now is decide what role, if any I want kink to play in my life. Either way I find the kink community to be one of the, if not the best community, you can ever have the fortune of being a part of.

I would highly encourage anyone to go to these type of events, even if they don't participate. It's a type of event that wears on you, that shatters your preconceived notions about sex and sexuality, but for all those reasons it is fantastic. It's hard to come to terms with things that define you, but it's a wonderful growing experience. To top it out, the people are fantastic, and your bound to meet some amazing people, whether you let them spank you or not. They're always put a smile on your face, one way or another. Thanks Dark Odyssey for making me take another look at myself. I appreciate it.

SO much

2011-03-01T21:38:00.001-08:00

Life has hit me like a ton of bricks. BUT it's all good (well most of it). I did attend dark odyssey, and I think I've recovered from it enough to write about it from a newbie's eyes. Stay tuned!!

HNT#3

2011-02-17T06:47:00.001-08:00

Happy Thursday!

Since you're here, read and comment. I love your opinions :)

Relationships

2011-02-16T21:15:00.000-08:00

It has come to my attention that when it comes to relationships, I'm completely fucked up. Excuse my language, but in all honesty, I can't think of any other way to better say that sentence.

I think I should give some background history to why I think the way I do. Also, let me preface this all by saying that I actually enjoy being in relationships, and having the comfort of a partner.

From the beginning, I don't think I've ever witnessed a healthy relationship. Not that I want to blame my family, but not a single person (or at least any I can think of at the moment) has a good relationship. By good I mean: a healthy relationship built on trust and mutual respect that has stable roots and is filled with love. I have NEVER been witness to this in my family life. In fact, everything I've seen has been almost the opposite. Don't get me wrong, I love my family. Even when they annoy me, they're still my family. Essentially, most of the pairings in my family are out of necessity, or religious obligations. They need to be together for financial reasons, or because they have a house. Then there's religion- I'm married to so and so so I can't divorce because it's against God. I would say most of the others just opted out of relationships, and just date around.

The sad thing about the couples are, I don't know if they are really how happy. Does that make sense? I don't want to sound like some spoiled kid of this generation, but isn't happiness important? I'm not talking perfection, but general content-ness. It seems like they're forcing it, or holding onto memories when they were happy to keep the ties of the relationship alive, mostly because they have kids. I really respect that it's important to put your family first, but something's gotta give. How healthy is a home environment where the kids can't see the love between their parents first hand? Honeslty, getting into a relationship that is dead, but 'works' because of my life situation terrifies me. I can only think of all the relationships that really didn't work way back when, but were done out of necessity or expectations. How many married couples were there really in the 50s? Hell how many are there now? Is this sexual revolution/ openness a retaliation by my generation to what never worked, or are we just exploring all the options?

Fast forward to the future, and I put my hand to the relationship game. I dated a few girls, and it was WONDERFUL. I really want to note that part. They were really great relationships, and I learned a lot. Unfortunately, they didn't end well. I don't mean that there were arguments or we hate each other. The ending were just sad, and the crap part was that we still like and really cared for each other. Sometimes it was distance. Other times they wanted more than I could give at the moment. Other times they just thought they should be single as a young woman. The last batch just like me for being black or whatever.

What this adds up to is a guy running around, not really sure how to make heads or tails of relationships in general. Compound this with my love of sex, both vanilla and a little kink, and you have a recipe for disaster. I have no real model to work off of, when I had it, it blew up in my face and I have no real clue why, and even if I manage to get into a relationship I worry that I'll be sexually satisfied. I think this is what led me to look into other relationships as well. I'm currently reading "Opening Up" by Tristan Taormino. It basically explores all types of open relationships. Am I ready for this? I don't really know. People in open relationships seem to be really strong ( when doing it right) and really happy, so it's definitely worth thinking about. Not to mention, I figured my sexual tastes will be less frowned upon by people who have an open mind. We'll see what happens.

What do you all think about relationships? How is yours and what do you wish you would've done differently in this one or others?

In the works

2011-02-15T22:30:00.001-08:00

I have a post in the works....mainly because I feel like my head is up my ass.

Happy Valentine's Day

2011-02-14T05:47:00.000-08:00

Happy Valentine's Day!

HNT#2

2011-02-03T06:23:00.000-08:00

Sodomy? Yes Please.

2011-02-02T06:14:00.000-08:00

So I was browsing the interent as I always do, and I came across a little gem. It was an article titled : Give Sodomy a Chance by Paul R. Abramson and L.J. Williamson. Here's my favorite snippet:

It seems nonsensical at first glance to assert that sodomy is a fundamental right, particularly in a legal culture incapable of recognizing sexual rights more generally. The real problem, however, is that we've had blinders on for so long that we can't see the obvious: Adult consensual sex, including sodomy, must logically be considered one of the most fundamental human rights of all.

Perfection.

This article got to me because I can not believe that in the year 2011, in one of the (if not the most) developed countries in the world, we still have sodomy laws. Laws specifically banning oral and anal sex.

Are you kidding me?

How I choose to express myself sexually is my right. What I do in the comfort of my home with other consenting adults is also my right. If I'm doing something that I enjoy and is not harming others, who should tell me otherwise? I wouldn't even consider BDSM harming others (even though those whips look like they could give a sting) because they choose to partake in those activities. When you harm someone you're doing wrong and malicious physical or psychological damage to another living being.

I don't care how you slice it, when you're getting the good sex, the sex you want, and expressing the way you feel, it can never be harm and therefore never illegal. I just hope one day that the laws get changed and people stand up and notice that sex and sexuality is a right, not a privilege.

I can honestly say I loved this article. Sodomy is awesome. Give it a chance.

Stoya + Fleshlight = Awesome

2011-01-31T20:43:00.000-08:00

How Much Do You Really Know??

2011-01-28T19:35:00.000-08:00

Do you ever wonder what secrets people hold?

Like do you REALLY wonder?

Everyday I feel as if we go through our lives, running into people, but we never know what's going on with them. I think this relates a lot to sex, but also relates to anything you can think of really.

Imagine if you will, being on a bus, on a train, or walking down the street. You'd see hundreds, if not thousands of people a day. Don't you wonder what that lady's o-face looks like? Or maybe that respectable business man has a butt plug up his ass? Or who is a swinger?

It doesn't even stop there though. I wonder who has kids. Who hates their parents. Who feels alone. I feel that we go through our daily lives interacting with people, and we never give them a second thought.

Lately I can't stop thinking about people's sex secrets. Maybe it's because I'm so damn horny from not getting any in a while, but I feel like I'm fascinated in what I don't know. I mean how could you ever really know.

Sometimes I just want to say hi to people. Maybe ask them how their day is going. I've had moments where people have talked to me and it has made my day. Sometimes, I just want to make someone else's day. Or maybe just hear something I was thinking. The possibilities are endless.

For instance take this event that's coming up- Dark Odyssey. It's a HUGE event, hosted every year for kinksters all over the world. So many people come out (so I've heard) and even more wish they could attend. Now this seems like a pretty crazy evet. Tantric sex. Bondage. Playrooms. Workshops. Not only that, but it's for everyone. It's for people who are hardcore kinksters, and those who are just a little curious. Yet these people are among us everyday. We pass them on the streets, sit next to them on the bus, and wait on line behind them at Starbucks.

And you know what?

That shit is fucking amazing. I love what could be. The possibilities are endless. I mean you didn't know as I wrote this, I was doing some PC exercises with a njoy plug did you? Oh the things you don't know =).

HNT #1

2011-01-27T06:40:00.000-08:00

Left or Right

2011-01-25T22:00:00.000-08:00

Lately I can't seem to decide what kind of relationships I want to try.

On the one hand I want the perfect family. A nice wife and some little ones. I also see myself as happy and monogamous there.

Then there's the me that wants to bone everything, partly because I like sexing, but also because I like to explore sexuality.

Unfortunately these two views seem to be at odds with each other and is giving me a major case of cognitive dissonance. I'm afraide if I explore my sexuality, it might hurt the chances of having a family later. Should I meet someone who doesn't approve, I don't want to have to hide the sexuality part of my life from them.

I guess if they can't accept something I truly enjoy and respect, I shouldn't even bother with them.

Somehow though, it doesn't feel that easy.

yummy ass

2011-01-25T06:17:00.000-08:00

GRRR

2011-01-24T20:42:00.001-08:00

I *hate* people who hurt others sexually.

Respect the Pornstars Please

2011-01-21T06:43:00.000-08:00

I think I want to take a moment to talk about pornstar respect.

It's something that bothers me as a porn consumer, and as someone who beleives in basic respect for others.

Spilling the beans

So many many places to start, but I think I'll begin with some mainstream culture. So the other day on Family Guy, there was a particularly interesting scenario. Lois befriended a tv news anchor and felt so close to her that she revealed her deep dark secret. She, way back when before her family life, when hard up for cash, performed in a porno. Little did she know, her new best friend was actually a girl she had tormented in high school who now wanted to ruin her life. Using her job, she told the entire town of Lois' porno past. This basically made Lois an outcast, to the point where she could no longer even participate in church (hmm sounds like this could be real life). Feeling that she could no longer beat them and change their minds, she showed the town her movie. It was sooooo hott they all loved her again (if only life were so simple, and awesome).

Even though this episode was made in jest, I think it still opens up the topic of how people who perform in/create (produce, direct, etc) are for better or worse outcasts to the rest of society. Almost like they have a virus. For some reason they lose all their rights to be treated as a person, and are either sub-human or a sex object. We bar them from taking jobs because they had had something to do with sexual expression, which we all enjoy. Even worse is when we don't think that maybe they fuck all day and don't want to see pictures of us beating off, or hear what we would do to them. I've seen so many tweets from pornstars about how guys are raping their tweets. Simply, it's wrong.

This family guy episode scenario really could play out in our lives. Think about it. What if you found out someone close to you performed in a porno? Mother, Son, Cousin, Best Friend. What would you do?

I couldn't help but think that as much as I don't want to consider my family boning (eww), I would have to respect the decision that they made. They're still the people that mean a lot to me. We as a culture have to acknowledge that people have sex, and sex is a part of life. It's great, and doesn't diminish anything else that we do in our lives as long as we understand its place. Just because a woman, or a man, chooses to perform a sex act on camera, that does not make them less of a person than anyone else. It does not make them someone not deserving a respect, nor does it mean they have limited mental abilities.

A problem I see among a lot guys are, well she's just a bitch, she sucks dick for money. This is the same attitude I hear over and over again about women in general, expecially a woman who is either a sex worker, or just very open about her sexuality. Now I could never understand why in the world we want to insult these people. I'm going to speak from my perspective. Guys can be jerks. I have done this as well. You know a girl is open about her sexual history, or you see her perform in a sex act and you think less of her. I think we have this idea that sex somehow makes you less. It should not be this way for ANY sexual person. We NEED to STOP doing that. It's not making us better people for putting others down, nor is it helping them. Remember the mantra, do to others what you'd want done to you. Even if you don't want to fuck on camera, remember you wouldn't want someone to put you down and demean your job which you enjoy and take pride.

She's probably smarter than you. And has a great butt.

Everywhere you look, sex is used up the anty, but if you're the person using sex you're someone sub par. Beautiful model? Then you must not be that smart. Yet you're being paid (millions) to sell the string bikini, or shoes (Looks like you're the genius to me). Suck a dick on camera? You must be a stupid whore who's only good to have a penis in her mouth. Nevermind that the people calling you names are paying to watch you be a whore, and that you actually have a pretty damn high IQ (see Asia Carrera).

This is something that doesn't seem to be ending either. Recently Tristan Taormion (super Crush on her) was denied a speaking gig at Oregon State University. The reasoning behind it was that she was a pornographer, and tax dollars could not be used to pay a pornographer to speak at a sex convention. A "pornographer" who provides sex tips, holds talks and seminars, can't speak at a sex convention. I'm not even sure how that makes sense but apparently it does. We don't want to pay someone who knows about sex, and is renowned for her great advice and site to speak on a subject she knows oh too much about because she's a pornographer. Huh?

As she wrote on her site, PORN IS LEGAL. I'd like to add that not only is porn LEGAL, it is also widely consumed by the american public. Exactly where do people think porn gets it's billions from? Looking at that old chart we see the USA spends 13 billion a year on porn. That is a lot, no? So why is it such an issue? Well that is something best answered by the pros like Tristan or Violet Blue.

We need to remember sex is NOT wrong, and those who give us a glimpse into their sex are our equals. They have just as much mental capacity, fears, hopes, dreams, and ambition as the rest of us. It's okay to treat them like a decent human being, the don't bite (unless you want them to ^_^). Instead of whipping out your cock at them, why don't we try a handshake and a hello? They do us a great service by making our neither regions all hot and tingly, and acting out our wildest fantasies. So let's be nicer to them folks, okay? After all, your parents could be pornstars. Bet you'll think twice next time you on xtube ;-P

Long live the porn.

I swear I'll be better

2011-01-19T19:58:00.000-08:00

I'm just SUPER busy lately. In a good way though. I have plans, many many plans!

Labels Can Be Friends Too

2011-01-13T20:08:00.001-08:00

So today I want to talk about labels

What I want to speak specifically about is how good labels can be. I've read a lot of sex blogs, articles, watched interviews, etc. The consensus among them is that labels suck and that they are damaging. I agree that labels CAN be damaging, and used to segregrate rather than unify. They can be used to make people other, so you can do whatever you want to them (slavery, gay rights, woman suffrage). Numerous times throughout history there have been time where a label has allowed a sect of people to be so horribley mistreated that we had to overhaul our government and society.

A lot of people in the sex community also tend to say that labels don't fit them. Their sexuality can't be labeled with any words.

Now here is where I digress. I can agree that the three traditional terms (heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual) can be limiting. I can also agree that labels can really do some damage to one, or many.

However, I still thinks labels are important. In fact I will say that labels are awesome, in that the help connect people. While I don't know the meaning of all of them (just really learned genderqueer the other day), I will defend our label friends based on the good their basic meaning/ideas can confer to people.

When I see people say that they don't care for labels, I want to say I think I get what they're saying. They're trying to say that they're unique, different, and that their experiences are multi-faceted. I respect that, but the thing is, when you take the labels off of yourself you make it hard for people who may be like you to find you if they don't have the benefit of being within a few degrees of separation from you

For example you could take swingers. Swinging is the overarching term for people who partner swap. It's used (mainstreamly) for people who have open relationships. This could be a poly relationship, or maybe someone who is bi who has both a make and female partner. Essentially it's a term that means there are more than two people participating in some form at some time in this specific relationship.

While some people in that umbrella would get pissed, say a swinger being called polyamorous, or vice versa, the main theme of some type of open relationship still exists. It communicates to people "Hey I believe in relationships that are unconventional". That idea, is by far the most important part of the label. It lets people understand certain views about you, and lets them connect to you. It helps you find people who not only accept your values, but also who can relate to(and in this case play and fall in love with) you.

With all of the social networks we have at our disposal - Facebook, twitter, blogs, digg, delicious, etc.- Labels are not only useful, they're invaluable. I know when I started this blog, and the twitter account to go with it, labels were an indispensable part of helping me get started. I wouldn't have know what was trending, or who was sex blogging and what was their specific niche.

So instead of getting rid of labels, why don't we just make more. I'm all for mixing labels to get that description that fits you well. One person I have a serious crush on is Jizz Llee (Jiz Lee Genderqueer). Not only because she's sexy as fuck, but because she used label to help people understand her. I honestly read the post and felt that I just got "it". I can say with honesty, I don't get all of the sexual orientations and feelings. I just don't. I will always respect them, but I really want to try and understand them as well. When people are unwilling to step out of their world to help me get them, it makes it harder for me to step into their world and understand them. You give me a string of words that describe you that I can attribute meanings too, and I'll give you a guy who will try to understand what those words mean in the larger context, and how they apply for for you.

So before you start hating labels, remember, you may actually be helping people understand you, or people like you :)

Myriad Facets of Sex

2011-01-04T20:12:00.000-08:00

So I've been wondering how to start the new year off on this blog. I've given it a lot of thought, and want to try to tackle why sex is awesome.

So, I'd say most of us know sex is awesome. Whether it's by yourself, one person, or a whole group of people, it's magnificence is well known. What makes it great lies more in than just feeling good. The feeling good parts of sex, while important, are only a part of the sexual experience. These different facets have attracted me to sex as something to really study and understand. Now, I'm not some university studied individual about the issues of sex. When I was at college, I did take some classes that looked at sex studies and gender, but my major was NOWHERE near that. Still it's something that continues to hold my absolute fascination.

My fascination with it is probably based on it's varied nature. Sex is one of the smallest combinatinos of letters you can throw together to make a word. It's simple and easy to say. There are no silent letters, or T's that sound like D's. What you see is what you get.
The funny part about it is that it's completely the opposite. Now this isn't a revelation for anyone. I know I'm not wow-ing anyone by saying what I'm saying. I really just want people to see sex through my eyes. When I see it, I see a world of varied, unparralled, fulfilling oppotunity.

There are so many ways to show the views thorugh my eyes, but I think the best, most outrageous example is the SHITTING DICK NIPPLES. One day while lurking around 4chan on a bored Saturday I came across this almost holy like picture. It was a hentai picture of exactly what I wrote- Shitting dick nipples. Large breasts with penises for nipples, shitting. Can you imagine?? (Don't). This is probably one of the most famous pictures in the 18+ boards of 4chan. Not famous because everyone wants to see it, or because it has the most discussions about it. It was made for the phrase- you cannot unsee what you've just seen. Now I heard that phrase way before the anon, but no picture has ever made it more real for me.

Now while I think hentai is cool, I found nothing cool, arousing, or even mildly attractive about this picture. It's pretty extreme, and is well out of most people's sexy range.

Most people's.

Think about that. There are people who are turned on by it. Even though the picture is not for me, and I find it a little gross(poop, not my thing) I still won't put people down for it. That picture represents arousal, desire, fantasy, and sexual energy for at least one person (probably a hell of a lot more than that). That's the kicker for me. Something I couldn't fathom in my wildest dreams, not only exists, but there is a demand for it by people who will get off on it.

Get it get it!

Then there's the more mental aspect of sex that can really make or ruin the entire mood, even if the same actions are being performed. I've been pegged, and I like pegging porn. Yet, it has to be very very specific. I can only enjoy it/watch it if I know the girls wants to, and enjoys what she doing. If i get the feeling that she's not that into it, it does absolutely nothing for me. The whole part of the pegging experience is to be her fuck toy. I want her to ravage me and enjoy the hell out of it. If she's enjoying herself, then I can enjoy myself.

I just want to bite it. Then fuck it.

Even though that's a bit submissive, I still love to ravage women. Does that make me a switch? I'm not too sure. Sometimes I just want to take a woman throw her on the bed and take her. Nothing turns me on more than when a woman is bent over with her ass in the air and just lets me pound her until my body goes weak- absolute bliss.

I guess what I'm getting at is that sex is alllll over the place. I mean look at me and what I've seen and done. I doubt I'll ever meet someone just like me, sexually speaking. I might meet people with similar interests up to a point, but I don't know if another 'me' will exist.
My unique sexual experiences and interests are as much a part of me as my family and friends. My sexual identity is my fingerprint. And I intend to leave it all over the goddam place.

Bye Bye mind of 2010, Hello Mind of 2011

2010-12-31T12:24:00.000-08:00

I'm going to post on here more often. This is not really a promise, or a new years resolution, but more of a new life philosophy.

I need to do things.

Now don't get me all confused. I do things. I do lots of things. I go to work 5 days a week, I pay all my bills early, I cook health food, I workout, I go out and part, I play video games. I do stuff.

The problem is I don't do things out of fear of what might happen, or sometimes I make myself wait to do things. It's outrageous. I honestly won't watch a movie because I don't want to devote the time to it. I'm afraid that I might want to do something within that 90 minutes, and I won't be able to do it because of the movie. I need to stop doing that.

I don't want to be one of those people who keeps saying they'll do something, but always puts it off. Or have regrets that I didn't at least try to do it.

So what did I do today? I watched a movie. It was pretty good. Now this isn't spectacular. It in fact, is completely ordinary. It is still a start in the right direction. I just went on the thought. I knew I wanted to watch, so I did.

This is the attitude that's I'm hoping extends into both my sex life/romantice relationships and platonic relationships. I'm just going to go for it, and try to stay out of my comfort zone, until it feels natural. Life is entirely too short to stay in a closed little shell.

This is the new mind that I'm taking with me into 2011. I think it's time to take my motivation and wants to the next gear. Me constantly waiting isn't going to help me be happy or get anywhere I want to be.

Now onto good ol 2010. Year 2010 was by far, the most ridiculous year of my life to date. I had not one, but about 5 life altering things happen to me. It's pretty outrageous when I think about it. Fortunately, I'm not upset about any of it. In fact, I'm glad it all happened as I look back, and I'm excited for the new year. I'm letting go of a lot of stuff from 2010, and just going to really live in 2011. I'm pumped.

(I had other plans for this post, but for now this seems right, so I won't fucks with it. Peace beezies. )

HBO Real Sex

2010-12-22T06:31:00.000-08:00

What would your interview say about you??

You know what helped me through sex when I was a youngin'? HBO's Real Sex.

Let me explain from the beginning. For those of you that remember way back when when computers were not as widespread, and you couldn't get what you want with the click of a button, there was late night cable television. I like to think I was one of the last kids of that generation.

One magical day we got HBO. HBO was awesome. it had all of the shows you wanted to see, but didn't know if you should watch, plus it had some of the best movies. It was AWESOME. Eventually as a young preteen/ early teenager, you will stay up late. This would result in late night television viewing, which would ultimately lead to late night HBO viewing.

Naked Witches? Awesome

Now as a kid who had a t.v. in his room this became one of the most awesome things ever. Simply because, there were naked people doing it on t.v. if you stayed up late enough. This is where i started to learn about sex and all its workings. The odd thing is, I never masturbated at first. Mostly because I didn't know how, nor what it was exactly. So I'd just sit there with a boner.

One day I accidentally ejaculated. I was so aroused, and had so much backed up cum, that it finally burst out. It was everywhere. One of the oddest experiences of my life. I couldn't deal with it any more.

Now for those of you who had never seen real sex, it was a serious where they explored sex culture of the 90s. Strip clubs, tantra, swinging, nude cruises etc. Lots of very heterosexual, fair skinned people. It did a good enough job for the time period it was in and it really did teach a lot. I mean think about it, it was people who were exploring thier sexuality, and seeking out news ways to express it. Even if I didn't like eveything they were doing, I had to respect it.

It also made me want to explore my sexuality. This is where I began to do my own research, about everythng. I mean I sat for months researching and looking up stuff. Remember I grew up in a house where we never discussed sex. I never learned how to put a condom on from my parents or anything. Everything I learned, I learned in school. Considering I was in catholic school my whole life up to that point, I learned a reasonable amount. But I'll never forget those confused times in my life. I'm glad I came to a decision by myself, instead of accepting of what was around me. I'd be a more repressed, unhappy person. So thank you HBO. You are awesome.

Njoy Eleven 1 Me 0

2010-12-16T07:18:00.000-08:00

Well I got my njoy eleven, and I must say it is everything I thought, and more. It is by far the most impress thing I've bought in my life, and this is considering I've had a car before ( I miss her (T_T))

Shinnnnnnyyy

I think the njoy eleven deserves some type of review/commentary from a man. I will be that man, or will try to be at least. So my background is that I am a straight male who likes things up his butt here and there. I'm not a harcore kinkster but I've dabbled. I've had dildos and fingers up my butt, but I'm not getting gang banged by hordes of women (I wish). And I don't have the fortune of being a male into males who enjoys being on the bottom, and so probably can take a good pounding. No, I'm your average joe schmoe who has a secret collection of butt toys in his closet. I don't use them that often when I masturbate ( maybe once every 2-3 weeks). I'm quite happy stroking myself into delight. Sometimes though, sometimes I just want something up there.

Now I've read other reviews of this toy. I've read a great deal of them, as I was trying to decide if it was for me, and worth the hefty price tag. All of the reviews remark on the size. Oh how they did it no justice. I feel that I have a pretty good gauge on lengths and widths. I can honestly say that when the package arrived I was nervous. Very nervous. The type of excited nervous you get when you are about to do something that you want to do, but have no experience doing. I gazed over at it sitting on the couch as I went about chores, trying to get my mind around its hugeness. With every pass, I became more into the idea of it and me becoming one.

See how big it is compared to it's friends?!

Now I clean myself in and out to get ready for my new buddy. I made sure to have lots of time, relaxed, and removed all the distractions that could possibly ruin this for me. I wanted to give my new friend it's undivided attention. I started off slow. Not even paying attention to my ass, and really enjoying some good porn, and some good stroking. Absolutely splendid. Then I moved onto some anal play. I got my handy dandy njoy fun wand out and just enjoyed both ends in a nice in and out motion. I did this for a while and I thought I was ready.

I was too excited. I had to try. I went for that beautiful piece of metal. I worked myself slowly onto the smaller end. First just the tip. I massaged my hole with it, as I had never had anything so large in me before. I reapplied lube OFTEN. I wanted to ease this bad boy in as much as possible. Now while I usually slip toys into me while on my back, I find it easier, and more arousing, for me to sit on them. Since I was having trouble pushing it in me, I decided to try and let gravity help me out. Holding the base, I tried to lower myself onto it. I gyrated my hips, trying to work the behemoth into me.

Wii mote for scale. You know you play Wii!

It started to work! I could fill my ass being filled like never before. Then, I stopped. I could no longer get it in any more. I realized I only had most of the head in, and it was already waaaaay more than I expected. Now, don't think this ruined my fun. I sure as shit came pretty hard from the whole ordeal. I just realized, I need *a lot *more practice. I'm talking months of training and maybe a nice toy thats more on the big side, but still smaller. Or maybe I'll just keep trying until I get it. I don't know.

What I will say is that this thing is awesome, not to mention it's pretty cool to look at and hold. It's fully functional as a weapon, a mantle piece, or the aid to a great orgasm. If any of you guys want one, I recommend it. Now if you're not used to things up your butt, this should not be you starter, but it is a goal to work towards. I think the men who could benefit from this most are those who are used to playing with really large toys. You guys will have a blast. I only hope to join you soon.

This work of art has given me my first new Years Resolution: Conquer the Njojy Eleven in 2011. Hooray for goals!

NJoy Eleven

2010-12-13T20:21:00.000-08:00

It has arrived!!!! I have one. I knew if If i just bided my time, I would have one. All I can see is that this thing is HUGE. I'm excited. and terrified. Let's hope I don't break something...

Aliiiiive

2010-12-07T21:23:00.000-08:00

Hello Hello.

So I'm oh so very late on oh so many things. This is my time to catch this blog up.

Thanksgiving was, well, Thanksgiving. I honestly have no real desire to go into too much detail about it. It just wasn't really that noteworthy. It makes me glad to be home, alone. Living alone was one of the best decisions I've made since becoming what they consider a real adult.

I did have some observations though.

Going home to people shows you how much you've grown without them.

Your old room no longer feels like home

Beating off at home is basically impossible and not as much fun

It's nice to be around family and friends, but there is a such thing as too much time ( in this case 4 days)

I think that's about it for now. holidays are always a blur that I'm glad pass.

I did however manage to get sick somewhere in the Thanksgiving fun/returning home.

Let me tell you, I hate being sick. Every time I get sick, I remember how much I honestly loathe the feeling, and the lack of inactivity to the point I swear to myself that I'll never be sick again ( how I don't know, but I'll figure it out!).

I really thought at one point during my sickness that I would die. Let me explain this though. I live alone. So if I get really sick, and I mean sick, how will ANYONE know?!? Unless they come into my apartment, I'll never be found. Now I understand how people die in their apartments, and only the smell gives them away. Luckily I made sure to tell a friend to check on me, just in case.

I survived though folks, alive and kicking!

Now All I have to do is think about what to write next...

Sailor Moon XXX

2010-11-23T20:10:00.000-08:00

That is the oh so sexy Asa Akira, dressed as Sailor Mars from SailorMoon. I really can't explain to you how happy this makes me. Let me explain this in detail.

The obvious. Asa Akira/Lexi Belle/ Heather Starlet. Sexy. (They're porn stars, what else would they be?)

The not so obvious. Keep this under your hats, but I watched sailor moon back in the day. Like, really watched it. Like tuxedo mask, sailor moon, mars, venus, mercury, little chibi, and the males/female saturn and company.

I love manga/anime. I do not apologize for this. It's awesome. If you ever want some good things to watch, let me know and I'll tell you what's good.

There is also another reason. Back in the day as a youngin' browsing the net, who knew that when you searched for your favorite animes/manga you'd get the wonderufk world of Japanese porn. I'm not talking about cute little asian girls covered in oil while yelping. I'm talking about the cartoon porn where the girls are getting fucked by tentacle monsters that have penises EVERYWHERE. Probably why I'm so screwed up now, but that of course is a story for a different day.

What I can say though, is that I cannot wait for this epic porno, for it connects a two spheres of my life throughout almost a decade.

Finally, a porn parody I want to see =)

The image is courtesy of Jeff Koga: here

The original coverage of this story is by none other than the awesome Gram Ponante of Fleshbot

My POV

2010-11-21T22:27:00.000-08:00

It's usually around 11 or 12 that I start getting ready for bed. Brush my teeth, wash my face, then shower.

Then from the shower I go straight to my living room. No need to get dressed, as I sleep nude, and my finally activity doesn't require clothing.

I already know what I want to do. I kind of know how I want to do it, how long it will take, and how hard it'll be.

I get my favorite clips ready. I sit back, and relax, one hand on my cock. Still limp, but that doesn't remain true for too long. I get aroused quickly, and within about a minute I'm at full mast. Usually at this point my cock is throbbing. It's engorged, and now that I've awaken it from it's slumber, it wants more. No more light stroking, going gently back and forth. I take a firm grip (sometimes two handed) and pump enthusiastically as I watch some hot sex. My mind is usually racing at this point, and I have to make sure not to pump too hard or I'll cum. This is of course the final goal, but I want this to last. I pump hard for as long as possible. Until I can feel my body waiting to release, and the cum is making my balls heavy. It's a truly fantastic feeling. I know I'm about done because my cock is usually dribbling profusely at this point, so cumming is just over the horizon. At this point I sit back, relax at little, find my favorite spot in my video and pump. I jerk it from the base to the tip, giving it a little twist in the motion, just to add to the sensations. Then that's when it happens. The cum that has been building up is released, and I can feel it travel the entire length of my cock, until it shoots out. One of the best feelings in life.

Then I sit there, breathing hard, but happy, and finally ready to sleep. Nothing like a good beat to relax the nerves before bedtime.

Making sense of it all ( or pretending to)

2010-11-20T20:47:00.000-08:00

Bonjour!

Well, I should be out tonight, but due to unfortunate circumstances, I am staying inside. These circumstances are people who don't want to do anything on a saturday night. They want to sleep by 10. ON SATURDAY night. The worst is, we're all in our early 20's!!!

So what will I do instead. Eat hot wings/blog. Masturbate. read some blogs. Maybe play video games. Maybe not in that order. But yea.

So I was thinking the other day. I like me. I like me A LOT. Most people I like, like me. Unfortunately, I make no sense. Let me explain.

When you look at most people (I think), you an tell things about them. Hot girl who is a nerd? check. Stupid jock? check. Sweet southern belle/gentleman? check. You know their roles, and can probably guess what they like.

Me? not so simple. The problem is, I don't always know. I like video games. I like dildos. I like football. I like electronics, manga, and nature. I like nude beaches and nude resorts. I also love really nice clothes. I get clothes crushes on people OFTEN. I'm a macho, chauvinistic jerk sometimes, but I also don't like hurting people and try to respect what they believe. I often have to censor myself, omit details, or blatantly lie just to make sure I continue to fit my social groups.

This is not limited to sex. This is almost everything about me. When I talk to girls I turn on the sex symbol me. When I'm near my black friends (I'm black), I become that n****, for lack of a better phrase. When I'm near my white friends I try to be one of the guys and not make people uncomfortable. Even when I have sex, I'm essentially doing it to save face. Very rarely do I lose control. I am always in control, and frankly, I hate it.

I ENVY those who wear thier heart on their sleeves. I want to just really be me, always, whatever that means. But I can't. I don't know why. But I can't. I feel as if people expect certain things of me (which a lot do) and if I don't perform, I basically get shunned or ridiculed. It's really serious.

I guess the worst thing, is that it happens in sex. I'm considering maybe swinging. Complete monogamy seems like a fading dream. Then again I have done it and loved it. I just want to keep the option open down the line, I like strapons/dildos and strong women who know what they want. Too bad, when I communicate these details you get weird, blank stares. Sometimes you get smiles and excitement. That's a keeper!

The worst thing though is when you talk to people and they tell you that you're TOO YOUNG. I'm sorry, where does it say I HAVE TO BE A GRANDPA TO LIKE TO HAVE GOOD, INTERESTING SEX. I'm 22. I have an endurance like a horse, and a cock to match. I love sex. LOVE LOVE LOVE it. Why the hell should I not want to enjoy the hell out of it now?

I talk to older women, and they laugh, tell me maybe when I'm older. Pft. I want to rock their world NOW. I want to experience their tricks. I find them sexy and fun. I also like those who don't know and want to figure it all out like me.

I guess before this gets too long, is that in my not making sense (which you probably gather from this crazy post) is that I live a very confused life. I don't know what to do.

Here's to figuring it all out!

Also I love butts, thus the image. =)

Alcohol

2010-11-18T20:15:00.000-08:00

Drinking does weird things to folks. I am currently slightly intoxicated. My night has been more out of control than I'd like. Great thing I've learned to KEEP IT IN MY PANTS. fin.

Njoy Eleven.

2010-11-16T22:03:00.000-08:00

I think I want this. Actually, I know I want this......After having their plug and fun wand, I think it's time.

Hmmmm

2010-11-15T21:51:00.000-08:00

So I've been meaning to post, and post more often. I have to get in the swing of writing things down. I must admit I've been busy.

busy with...DATES. But alas, these dates are leading no where. I'm either interested in the girl for her looks but not her, or interested in her, but not her looks. Frankly, I do not wish to date someone I don't feel that attracted to, nor do I really feel like chasing a girl just to get in her pants. I have done this in my past, and they have led to epic fails. I don't want to lead people on, so I'm sort of at a moot point. Also, usually when I get that hot girl in bed, the sex is so bad, I just feel icky.

I could however see myself having a good friends with benefits thing, or just someone I really like having sex with. Unfortunately this is currently not the case (unless you include my hand, then I'm doing swimmingly).

The biggest issue is probably that I feel all date-d out. Like I have no tolerance to date/court someone. I don't want to necessarily be left alone, but I'm apathetic to the situation (kind of doesn't make sense). I'm hoping this feeling eventually fades, but my guess is that it won't. If I met a girl that I was super attracted to, was awesome, and chased me, I feel like I would be re-energized (wouldn't we all). I guess I'll figure something out.

Something I have in my mind though is, what if I meet someone I like, and I have to explain my sex views. That could be...tricky. I don't know how many women would pounce me if I said "strapons, group sex to see if I want to pursue it, oral, porn, and masturbation for everyone." Unfortunately, as a guy, having interest in sex makes you a pervert to most women. Even if you're being genuine. I feel like I'm at a dead end. Ball sacks.

Also here is a great picture of barbie and ken, for fun's sake.

2010-11-07T12:41:00.001-08:00

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Masturbation & Me!

2010-11-03T20:49:00.000-07:00

Masturbation is awesome.

Now that I've said this, I can elaborate. But maybe I should start the story from day one?

I'm feeling good so why not. I remember the first days of just watching some late night HBO and getting aroused. It was awesome. Naked Ladies!!! I didn't touch myself yet though. I just enjoyed the erections. Then one day it happened. All that backed up semen came gushing out. There was a lot. And from that I was terrified.

I had never cum before. I had no idea what semen was. I knew nothing about masturbation and not that much about sex. All of this non knowledge at the tender age of about 13(#1 reason why I advocate sex education but thats for another time). How was I supposed to really know. I had done nothing with women, I never really explored, and my parents told me nothing. If you had showed me a condom them I'd think it was a weird balloon.

So how did I progress? Jackin World! This place is an online resource that basically outlines the good things about masturbation, techniques, stories, and a comprehensive Q&A section- All for boys. I swear this was the only place you could info about beatin yo' dick without having to talk to Herbert the Pervert. It was awesome. I learned how to not be ashamed, some new techniques, and just overall benefits.

Now even though I had this resource I was still ashamed. I grew up in a religious household, and sex was bad. Bad bad bad. Luckily through lots of internet searches and what not, I came to grow away from that. Even though that was a hard journey, I think I made it. Somewhat.

Well from the good ol' internet I expanded my masturbation fun immensely. I went from amateur to pro in no time flat. I used one hand. I used two hands. I played with the balls. I had lube. Special hand techniques. I'd jerk it anywhere from 2 minutes to 3 hours. The night began to be my masturbation paradise. I enjoyed it well. It was fantastic.

Eventually I branched out. I had a booty, and I was not afraid to use it. I found butt plugs, and they added a whole new dimension. There was something so wrong and so nice about having one. They were my little secrets, my treasures that I couldn't tell people, but they were awesome. I knew they were fine and nothing was wrong with them, but what is a boy supposed to do as a senior in HS? I just decided to bide my time.

Eventually within all this I found women and life changed. But I never forgot my first love. I still explored and tried new things as much as possible. I even shared my masturbation with my lovers. I taught them my favorite twists and tugs. They knew my penis, and it was good.

Now I don't use my special hand techniques as much anymore. I just sit back and give myself a good tug. A nice, long, good tug. Me and my penis are the best of friends. But don't think I've forgotten my ass though. I own more butt toys than lots of people. I got plugs, dildos, vibrators, beads etc. I love them all. In the end though, I just sit back and enjoy a good tug. Fantastic.

I learned so much from my masturbation journey, and I can't wait to learn more. It's been fun, and as a single, 20 something old man living by myself, something tells me I'll get a lot of practice. Fun? I think so.

In essence, Masturbation is awesome.

So

2010-10-28T20:53:00.000-07:00

So this blog won't be just about sex I've decided. I was going to try to make it so, but in all reality I just don't care enough to do that.

So let's see. SVU ruins my life. Like seriously. why is it always a marathon. WHY. WHY WHY WHY WH RAGGGGGGEEE.

at 6pm I'm like: wow, home early I'll be productive and go to bed early.

By 11: Fuck!, I didn't make anything to eat yet and my apartment is a mess. Fuckballs.

I'm watching the league. She knows a bit about monkey curses. Goddam I love this show.

I don't feel like rambling anymore.

Butts

2010-10-24T20:57:00.000-07:00

I love butts. Like, a lot. A woman's butt is by far one her best assets. I can't even begin to explain why I love them. Big ones. Small ones. Whites ones and black ones. They are all fantastic. You can put things in them, you can put your face on em, give em a squeeze or maybe massage them. So many fun things to do.

This post is to all you beautiful women and your butts. Be proud. you have magnificent gift, and I appreciate it.

The Mistress!

2010-10-20T22:49:00.000-07:00

I need to be a better blogger. I've been super busy lately, but I'll get better, promise.

With that I'll jump into ( or onto?) one of my favorite things. My vibrating vixen Mistress dildo from Vixen Creations. AMAZING. Why? Beside being a quality toy made by a quality company, it's just fun to play with. Not to mention you can add a little buzz to the fun anytime you want. Unfortunately there is no speed setting, but I assure you it's still fantastic. One of my favorite things to do is to sit on it and get in all the way in, then switch the vibrator on and let it do it's magic while I stroke my cock. Fantastic. Then I can grind it or bob up and down and really let loose. It's big enough where I feel like I'm doing some work, but not huge where I feel like I should be in a kink.com video (not that I wouldn't want to be...). Either way it's a fun toy and I recommend it for men and women alike.

Also, I've read a quote today that will probably be the mantra of this blog. It reads:

Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.
-Oscar Wilde

It is perfect. We (myself included) cannot always show 100% who we are all of the time. This goes for things outside of sex as well. This isn't because we care about the judgment of others( although sometimes we do), but because in order to do somethings you have to be discreet. Like that cute girl at the bar? Probably shouldn't tell her about your love for dungeons and dragons on the first date. See that cute guy? Telling him how much having a family means to you probably won't help you get him. Like to swing? Probably don't want that to be public if you're the face for a family company.

Those reasons are why blogs, this blog, is perfect. This space is sacred. You can say what you please, how you please. My mask is blog. My mask hides my face, but in turn liberates my voice. One day I hope to remove the mask, but at this point in life, a mask is essential.

2010-10-11T21:23:00.000-07:00

More Later.

Ode to Drunken Hookups

2010-10-06T14:22:00.000-07:00

I drink. A lot, sometimes. It's fun, it's social, and it gives me an opportunity to meet people. Sometimes these people happen to be lady people who I will spend the night with. After having my fair share of these encounters, and conversing with fellow brethren on this subject, it's time for a PSA. Now ladies please do not hate me on this. I speak for all when I say:

Your drunken handjobs are HORRIBLE. If that's all you're going to offer, please inform us ASAP so we can decide if we want to go through with it. PLEASE.

Handjobs are fun, don't get me wrong. They're awesome in fact, but that's usually because I'M doing them to myself. I've had years of practice. Your technique will never trump my patented and perfect technique. I can be done in seconds or make it go for hours. My technique is not flawed.

Now when you guys give us handjobs, there are some problems. This is not to say that girls can not do wonders with their hands. I've met a few that could. Also, anytime a you have a special friend playing with your junk, it's going to feel nice. That being said there is an ugly beast hidden around the corner. The drunken HJ.

The drunken HJ is by far one of the most disappointing. Let me explain why. First, when a drunk man here's the magic words, "Let go to my/your place" his mind goes all over the place. He's excited because he doesn't know what's going to happen. His mind dances with all the late night movie viewings he's done over the years. Sometime down the line, you get to a heavy makeout session, and some heaving petting. This sends his imagination into the atmosphere and he hopes somethings amazing will happen, until he here's the dreaded " We are not doing anything else but this". His heart sinks and is replaced with confusion and sadness. And do you know why? Because what you're doing is probably bad. Not because you can't do it, but because you probably don't know (or barely know) his penis. You don't know if he likes a little twist, maybe play with the balls, maybe rub the head. You're sticking to that up down motion that is okay, but is not show stopper. Not to mention due to your, or his intoxication (or both), things are either not feeling THAT great, or the rhythm is just way off. To top it off, your hands are probably dry. So we have a desensitized penis, with your lack of knowledge and dry hands. A combination for disaster. So Please, next to you only plan to give a HJ, at least use a little lube. ^_^

I can see clearly now....

2010-10-03T15:06:00.000-07:00

Thanks to the aneros! But the awesomeness of my little buddy needs to wait a second.

So why start this blog? I don't know. I've been against this sort of thing for some time now, but I think I'll just use it as a means to share all my sexy thoughts, as well as post random things I like. It's my space to do what I please, so I intend to enjoy it.

So who am I? I'm me. A simple guy, who has random interests and hobbies, likes good sex, likes movies, hangs with friends and is fascinated by sex and sex culture. I am not some great sex God, nor am I trained to answer questions of the like. I will talk about fun things and things I like though. Which leads me to the whole reason why I now start this blog....

Yep, that is a butt plug. A very special butt plug that is way too much fun for it's own good. I've had it for a while, and used it from time to time. I guess I should address the fact that I like butt things. I'm not into men in any fashion, but I am into things in me. They are fun. Straight men take notice: butt toys are fun. Especially this one. I had the super O. I heard the rumors about it. Once you have it it'll be AMAZING, yadda yadda yadda. All I could do was this -__-, until it happened and made me do this =O, then this ^_^. After that I saw the world through rose colored glass, which is why I have to blog about this. I've had too much fun to not share this. So yea that's about it.